Losing a loved one can be one of life’s biggest challenges, nothing can prepare you for the feelings that come with such a loss. Grief can be totally overwhelming and you might feel like you are experiencing an overflowing amount of unexpected emotions like shock, anger, profound sadness, guilt, disbelief and so on. When experiencing a bereavement, grieving for that loved one and the loss of that person in your life is inevitable, there is no single way to grieve, you can’t grieve wrongly because it is a totally personal process that everyone deals with in their own way.
While grieving is completely normal and everyone is going to go through it at least once - and likely multiple times in their life - some people can find it overwhelming to a point where they don’t feel like they can cope with it on their own. The feeling of grief can be debilitating for some, affecting their physical health even to the point where they struggle to sleep or eat and find it hard to go through their day to day life like they did prior to their loss.
Everyone is going to feel different when going through a bereavement, and one bereavement may be an entirely different experience to another, you might have found yourself coping well with one but struggling with another which is completely normal. If you find yourself at a point where you simply feel like you are not able to cope with these intense emotions day to day, they are not subsiding at all or you have feelings of depression or anxiety it is so important that you seek support or help from someone. You might find yourself dealing with ‘complicated grief’, where feelings of loss do not seem to get better with time and are long-lasting.
Navigating life through a time of loss can be difficult whether you are the one dealing with these overwhelming feelings or if it is a friend or family member. Seeking advice or help is important whether you want help finding a counsellor or need guidance on something as simple as how to ask for time off work to deal with your loss.
It is important to know that you do not have to go through your bereavement alone no matter how you feel. Whether you are experiencing complicated grief or are unsure how you feel after the loss of a loved one. You should not feel like you can’t reach out for support or help at this time, talking through your feelings and emotions can be a crucial step to overcoming your grief or edging towards a period in your life when you can begin to look forward again.
Speaking to a therapist can support you in moving through all the stages of grief one step at a time. If you feel like you need help to take that first step, try talking to a friend or family member first about how you feel and let them know that you want help seeking more professional support to deal with how you are feeling.
This article was produced by Chelsea Ellsworth, an experienced and enthusiastic freelance writer who has written for a variety of online publications and magazines. Chelsea is passionate in providing informative and engaging articles around mental health, to help spread awareness and to educate and support others.